My eldest son was friends at secondary school with a boy who didn’t have any other friends. He was bullied a bit, so my son invited him into his group of friends, who were a bit sporty. This boy wasn’t sports inclined but joined in, and they came to an agreement that they would alternate sports and other things during lunchtime. read more →
This is a powerful activity to use in the classroom at any time a student is in need of some extra love and care or as a focus activity during International Day of Friendship. It’s one we’ve included in the Ripple Kindness Project for Schools primary and elementary curriculum as it can have such an incredibly positive impact on children who are being acknowledged and complimented.
The activity can be exceptionally moving for children who have trouble connecting with others or suffer from low self-esteem as it helps them discover a sense of community. It can also help to nurture more positive relationships as it encourages children to think about and highlight the endearing qualities of their peers.
You will need
• a large piece of card or butcher’s paper for each child
• several different coloured markers
• a class list or roll call sheet
- Explain to children that they’re going to each have a turn sitting in the ‘hotseat’. It helps to have a class list to make sure that everyone has a turn over a period of time.
- Put a piece of card or butcher’s paper on an easel or adhere it to the whiteboard. Place a chair in front of it with its back to the paper.
- Select a child from the roll and ask them to sit in the chair. Tell the remaining children they’re going to take turns to write something nice about the person in the chair on the paper behind them. They’re to think about that person’s positive qualities and compliment them on things they like about them but they’re not to focus on appearances.
• You’re such a great friend.
• I love that you smile so much. It makes me happy.
• You are so kind and helpful.
• I love having you in our grade.
• You’re really good at drawing.
- When everyone’s had a go, ask the focus child to stand up and turn around to read the compliments on the sheet. You may like to take a photo or short video of their reaction or of them standing beside the sheet.
- Leave their compliments sheet displayed until the end of the day and ask the child to take a photo of it on their device so they can look at it whenever they’re feeling sad or self-critical. Present them with the paper to take home to show their family or hang in their bedroom.
Have you had success connecting and uplifting children in your classroom? We’d love you to share your ideas and photos HERE.
A friend of mine’s husband was suddenly hospitalized with a broken back, they too have a large family and she was being tested for cancer. Our community swooped in silently while they were out. Friends cleaned her house top to bottom; we took all of their washing; people did a roster for meals and child care; meals were dropped off; shopping and food vouchers were purchased and healthy lunch box snacks were made. And guess what… yep! She cried!! (They are both FINE now). read more →
I walked into a sandwich shop after spending all day at the hospital with my mother. It had been a long day. I was tired and stressed out. I ordered sandwiches to take home to my husband and son. I asked the girl behind the counter if she could tell me how much my order would be before they started making the sandwiches so I could make sure I had enough money. I had made the comment that I had been at the hospital all day, so I was a little tired and my mind was foggy (couldn’t figure the total in my head). read more →
My daughter (now 17) completely went against a whole class of girls in junior school that had fallen out with one girl. She would have been on her own if my daughter hadn’t remained friends with her, even though this girl had ganged up on her in the past. I thought it showed a great strength of character and the girls mum even rang to thank her. – Zara x
In the dark, scary hour that left me with a total-loss vehicle, numerous physical injuries and a broken spirit, my friend Margaret came to the rescue. Her superpower is compassion and caring. She lent my husband a vehicle so he could take the kids to the orchestra. She brought over dinner and reading material to keep me comfortable. She checked on me every day and she even offered to wash my hair.
That was huge because the collision was on Thursday afternoon and by Sunday, I desperately needed it. I’d lost my mobility, and she offered to wash my hair.
My husband and I took a giant leap of faith January 2014 and moved ourselves and our two boys from our hometown and everyone we knew (in Georgia) clear across the country to Utah.
Within our year stay, (we recently returned home) we developed amazing friendships. Around Christmas time, we were struck with several unexpected bills and ended up needing several hundred dollars worth in repairs done to our vehicle. No one knew our circumstances, but we were struggling like never before. A new friend asked why I was walking myself (expecting at the time) and our two boys back and forth to church and to the grocery store. I explained we needed some repairs done but needed to wait a few more weeks to have enough to cover the costs. With no details and no hesitations, our new friends offered to get our car taken care of with a family friend. We were reluctant but after many conversations of them urging us to accept the help, we couldn’t say no. read more →
I volunteer at local nursing homes. I have volunteered since I was a teenager as it was expected in our home to volunteer, and watching my mother and grandmother volunteer, it just was something that I enjoyed doing.
My mother volunteered almost until her death at 90, even with Alzheimers, we would go to local nursing homes and she would sit with the residents, sing, hold hands, hug…. whatever she could do. read more →
I was at the book fair with my son. We were behind two brothers waiting to be checked out. They each had two books. read more →
About a week ago I noticed a man at our local Walmart with a sign that says “homeless please help”. I bought him a sandwich, chips, cookies, and a bottle of water. I put two dollars in the bag and I took it out to him. I explained to my daughter who was with me that I helped him and not the woman on the other corner because you could tell he needed help. His clothes were dirty and had holes in them. He had a back pack. His sign was old and dirty. Her sign was bright white and new looking. Her clothes were better looking than mine and clean. Her long hair was neatly pulled up and looked good despite our high winds that day. We get a lot of scammers here. read more →
A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, wordlessly he picked up a very large and empty pickle jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls.
He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was. So the professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was. read more →
Two days ago my elderly neighbour came to my home quite distressed. She has been trying to deal with an unusual life situation on her own and combined with lack of sleep, felt she was going crazy. I let her talk it out and then we went to her home, and I stayed with her for a couple of hours to give her emotional support. Then yesterday, I visited her again for about an hour and she was feeling a little better and said had made a doctors appointment for this morning. read more →