I once heard a story about a husband and wife who had been at each other’s throats for years. The couple were so nasty to one another that they had nothing but hatred in their hearts and wanted to get a divorce.
A friend suggested that the husband try putting aside his anger and show nothing but kindness and consideration towards his wife that perhaps she would behave differently. He challenged him to try it for a month to see what would happen.
The husband started to be kind and considerate, even giving his wife compliments. Before long, he started to feel a shift. His wife was responding positively to his kindness and had stopped snapping at him. He noticed that he was feeling calmer and more positive and that slowly they were fighting less and talking more.
Instead of returning to his old ways when the month was up, he continued to show kindness and consideration. It wasn’t long before the couple had stopped fighting altogether and they both felt very differently about their relationship.
Over time, they rediscovered the reason they had fallen in love all those years ago and the last I heard, they were still together and very much in love!
The moral of the story? If you want something to change, you have to change your attitude and behaviour.
Happy New Year!!! – Lis